The title alone is built on a situation I endured at this new job (not a job I intend on staying long at, but one that will help me save up more money so that I can eventually move next year to the bigger city). This situation happened about a week ago, but it carried on for another week (unintended) and not to due to myself, but due to other people’s motives and emotions and lack of understanding of the matter. I suppose every good lifestyle blogger has to write about something real .. or “happening” & so I will make this new blog category worth your while as much as possible because I want to make sure it comes off real and gives you a sense of who I am but at the same time opens up conversation if need be.
People tend to enjoy the depressed and upset ones — they find them vulnerable and weak and assume that if they are already at their low, it would be easy to keep them there. That’s what one of my co-workers assumed; and I finally decided instead of being pissed off and shitty towards people, I would instead be seemingly nice, and ignore the co-workers gestures and snide comments to belittle me (all in the name of situation that didn’t involve him in the first place or effect him) but in due time I decided to make my manager aware of the things this co-worker was doing to get a rise out of me, and after the manager had a good old conversation with him, I imagine he just became more bitter towards me and would continue to be an asshole towards me. That’s when I decided to change my perspective and give myself a better setting; I decided to smile and talk to people and ignore the co-worker’s ignorance and continue to do well at work. When this co-worker seen how many people were talking to me again and how I was not effected by his low blows & belittling comments, he finally felt compelled to apologize for offending me and making me feel uncomfortable. I think back to the fact that I was angry because of how many people were being rude towards me due to a situation that occurred that was blown out of proportion but because people listen to rumors instead of truths, they didn’t want to see my side of things when it happened. I started to ignore people, not smile and show no personality at work just to get through the shift because it was upsetting me having to endure such unkindness & that made my life worse because then people would continue to be rude towards me back and more unkind or unwilling to speak to me. After many efforts of being negative, I decided to come to work with a new attitude and in my surprise it worked for me, people were kind, willing to chat and very receptive towards me and the drama that occurred in the first place seemed forgotten for the time being.
The moral of the story is, when I chanced coming to work with a bright mind & attitude, and started talking to people, it changed their attitude towards me & it gave someone a reason to apologize when they seen I was no longer going to allow them to affect me and my mood. I can’t say everyone was genuine, but it made work more enjoyable to pretend that they were.
Starting a new job is never always an easy task (I have now been there 60 days and close to 90 days at the end of this month) a 2nd job that I got to help me save up more money for moving next year. I am not someone who enjoys drama and when you work with people who feed off drama, it can make work challenging at times and make you a bitter person, but I have learned that sometimes instead of being bitter and having a negative mindset — changing over to a better perspective, smiling and being friendly can make a whole lot of a difference. Food for thought.