Do you find it easy asking for “help”?
- Growing up, I avoided asking for help; especially in school. Instead of raising my hand in class, I’d usually go home and and try to figure it out; or wait until a teacher or college professor would notice my struggle & reach out to help me. Many times my college professors or high school teachers would recommend that I seek assistance after class or school with them or with a tutor, but I’d never be one to go. Asking for help just made me feel uncomfortable due to social anxiety and because I wanted to blend in/fit in with everyone else who understood the subject matter. Not to mention, I don’t particularly enjoy the spotlight having to raise my hand in class if I don’t understand something. The ONE time that I reached out for help on my own, was when I was failing math class or on the brink of failing a math class in college & I had to pass it, in order to graduate that same year, so I reached out to a family member who then helped me to pass — but that literally was down to the wire before I asked. Now, I still don’t particularly like having to ask for help — and try to avoid doing so, but at the same time I know if necessary, I am fully capable of asking for help if I need it.
2 thoughts on “365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 61”
Shay-lon! I’m really enjoying this self discovery series! As a kid I had no problems asking for help, but as an adult I’ve had a tough time asking for help. It’s getting better but something I’ve still got to work on.
What changed as an adult that makes it harder to ask for help? was it your confidence level? the fact it comes off needy? or just the mainstream thought that in order to be “independent” we have to learn to fend for ourselves .