Do You Always Tell The Truth?
- Such a tough question since I like being honest and being truthful, but I would lying if I said I have never told a lie; even now as an adult. However, I pride myself with being able to tell the truth in most cases, but in many cases I have found that I sugar coat the truth if I know the honesty might hurt someone’s feelings or could cause for more problems (which in turn means I am not really being 100 percent honest) but I can live with that, if it means I am not tearing someone’s heart out or making them feel less than their best. People say they would rather hear the truth, but many people can’t honestly handle it, so I have to consider the situation and how much of the truth to tell, and how to word it in order to make it so it doesn’t come off as though I am being a B word. I prefer to be 100 percent honest, because I would want the same in return (even if it does hurt me) at least I know & in theory I always start with telling the truth but I won’t deny there have been times I have fabricated the truth to protect somebody or myself — not my proudest moments but I have done it. Sometimes the truth can lead to more problems and sometimes people are in denial of the truth which doesn’t help your case, I guess I shouldn’t make excuses for the times I have lied, but I am just saying, the truth sometimes holds worse consequences. In general, I consider myself a very honest person.
How about you, do you ALWAYS tell the truth, have there been situations where you didn’t tell the truth? share in the comment section.
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I pretty much always do, but if i feel a person wont be able to handle it, then i might hint or remain silent.
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Do you believe remaining silent is as damaging as lying? like not being able to tell someone what you want to say.
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Sometimes i feel it is the the same. But, when i contemplate it, and think about, and in the context if some people, staying quiet is the right response, because they dont have the capacity to understand what you day anyway. I know this sounds harsh but life experiences has lead me draw to this conclusion.
If it makes sense.
When i was younger i definately thought it is as good as lying and part of me still does. But in the context of the person on the receiving end ut might be the wisest action to take. Total contradiction hey.. but i feel it okay.
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Thank you for your breakdown of your reasoning for feeling the way you do about staying silent in some cases. I can see where silence might be a better option or having to walk away from telling the truth might be the better option than to tell someone something and it get contorted differently because of their lack of understanding or wanting to understand. Everyone prides themselves in being able to handle the truth, but many people I have experienced, could hardly manage hearing the truth without getting upset or enraged.
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Agree
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I always try. I’m not perfect.
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Sometimes we have to choose our battles wisely.
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I think it’s almost impossible. What about if the truth is a brutal one? For me, it depends on the individual circumstances.
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Do you think it is impossible to be truthful all the time? I was thinking this similar thought while writing this answer in my journal, but then I thought to myself, what if, someone has always been honest, like what if someone truthfully has never lied, or hasn’t lied for an extended period in their lives no matter the circumstance.
Do you think lying is a bad thing? I mean we are taught it is a bad thing, but why is it good sometimes and bad other times.
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I am like yiu lying is a bad thing and that is ingrained in me. But it depends on the other person. I feel staying silent or hinting is the best i can do with some, cause the dont have the capacity to get what you say, and in that case i dont thinkbit lying, it is choosing your battles, conversing energy. And there is wisdom in that..even diplomacy.
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Good point Bella,
I can see all your points. Sometimes we pride ourselves in always wanting to do the right thing by telling the truth but when the day comes where telling the truth might lead to misunderstanding or failure, I feel as though, sometimes we have to take the high road.
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Agree
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It’s a difficult question to answer, but I’ll try! 😉 Let’s say that a friend is having a surprise party tomorrow night. Your friend may ask you “Shay what are we doing tomorrow?”
You say “nothing much!” Even though you are technically lying, you want your friend to experience maximum joy when she arrives at the surprise party destination!
But I’ve also seen brutal truth destroy people and really impact self esteem.
So I think it comes down to knowing a person and knowing if the truth will help that person.
I’m not sure if I’m doing a good job at explaining? I did write about this a while back.
https://tyronepierre.com/2015/08/23/the-truth-no-thanks-im-good/
But the short answer is no I don’t think lying is always bad, but it really depends on the individual and the circumstances.
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Good examples. Yes, I have seen and heard of brutal truth also weakening another person’s self esteem. Words stick with a person, they really do, so anything we say could effect someone positively or negatively. Thanks for sharing the link, I will read it today 🙂
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