RIP To All Those Who lost their lives

I just want to take the time to say how sorry I am for all those currently struggling with the loss of their loved ones during the last night’s shooting in California at Borderline Bar and Grill. This world is chaos, and it has become a “normal” thing for these mass shootings, soft shooting to take place anywhere and everywhere. That’s sad, pathetic and scary. I was on twitter today and reading the masses of tweets and one in particular stood out to me (I dont have cable any longer, so I feel am always last to know things unless posted on FB or instagram or a friend should tell me) and did you guys know that this shooting marked 304th mass shooting of 2018 thus far. It blows my mind more and more when I think about it because we used to grow up in this mentality that “my neighborhood is safe, this town has hardly any crime, this could never happen here to me, what are the chances of it happening here, and the most crimes we have are small.. ” well guess what America? NEWS FLASH! but safe is relative & there is no safe zone, nobody is safe from destruction besides the dead. Hell, growing up, I always thought this town was safe from all harm due to it being a pretty well established area with very little crime but now, we have drug overdoses every week, we have had people killed from gunshots and stabbings and we have car break ins, etc.. and guess what? that’s not nearly half of what goes on here that the crooked system tries to hide, regardless, crime can happen everywhere and no state, city, county is safe from a mass shooting erupting — people don’t give a fuck! I hate to say it, but people who want to harm others; on a mission to make hell for someone else isn’t going to discriminate where it takes place, if they have the tools and the way in, they will take it & we need not forget that aspect. 

Our country has been talking about “gun control” since the Pulse shooting and yet there has not been a solution in place, not enough action being taken and too much conversation that prolongs the process before another shooting happens. We say gun control, we say we need to not continue to make mass shootings a normal happening, we say we need to band together and come up with a solution, we say we need to change the laws, we say we need to ban certain people from obtaining weapons, etc, but what haven’t we done? we haven’t done enough.. we are discussing the same policies, the same written documents, the same agendas we were discussing back when things started and now we are doing the same thing , and this is giving perps more time to plan the next chaotic attack because we aren’t taking enough action. I am scared for our country and the future, scared for my family and friends, scared for myself and people who I don’t even know — innocent people’s lives.. I am scared because no matter what we decide, people aren’t going to wait for us to take action, they will continue to do these shootings because they can and will. When we finally take some sort of action, it probably still won’t be enough because the internet makes things easily accessible & we live in sick, cruel world where all it takes is a click of a button, power and or money and BOOM!

I was reading a post on twitter on how we are blaming these shootings on mental health problems/disorders and conditions but how dare we use this as a scapegoat each time someone decides to become radical and do a mass shooting. I couldn’t agree more with the person who stated it, because hell, I suffer from mental health disorders but I am not out here shooting up buildings, blowing up people and taking innocent lives — and while I know mental health is running rapid & many times people can’t afford medication, don’t know they suffer from something or can’t afford to get help they need, it doesn’t mean all of us with mental health disorders are taking it upon ourselves to kill people. I am more than aware that some have severe cases of mental health issues and can cause harm to themselves and others but I don’t believe we should continue using mental health as a scapegoat because I believe it fuels the stigma already placed on people who suffer from mental health disorders/conditions. If mental health is an issue (which it is when people can’t afford or have the help they seek or need) then lets come up with something to help those in need — but if every time we assumed someone who killed someone has a mental health disorder, it would be bullshit because there are so many people in their right mind who just are evil people doing these things, it doesn’t always come down to them having a mental health disorder, sometimes they are just malicious people with bad intents. Two things:

  1. We need to focus on the fact that NOT every person who goes out and does a senseless act has a mental health disorder, fact is, people can be evil and do crimes like this, it doesn’t mean they have PTSD or anxiety or anything else, it could just mean, they are evil and have bad intentions. 
  2.  If we want to keep blaming mental health for reasons why people go out and kill people and commit mass shootings, then find a way to help people or make it possible for people to afford health care, prescriptions, therapy sessions, etc and create a better reform so people understand the different types of mental health disorders & instead of justifying the shootings with this person suffered with a mental health disorder .. how about we take action on gun control & have a better judicial system that hands out consequences instead of slapping people on the wrist to stay moral. 

I agree with this person who quoted:Mental illnesses didn’t shoot & kill 12 people in last night. A man with a gun did. Im sick of people using mental illness as a scapegoat, which further stigmatizes those of us that struggle with it. It’s lazy & dishonest” -Khary Penebaker, Fx .

Again, I am sorry for all those that lost someone due to the shooting, I pray in time you heal and find it in your heart to continue living your best life. ❤ 

P.S I am all for conceal to carry, I believe protecting ourselves is the best method these days; especially in having to defend yourself and family/friends. Take away people’s right to protect themselves, we are left defenseless and people who can’t fend for themselves are usually left to die without being able to put up a fight. However,  I do believe we can come up with a solid solution that doesn’t take away people’s rights to defend themselves but makes it harder for those who shouldn’t have gun to obtain one, but even so, the internet is easy and accessible and people will always find a way. Sadly.


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You can assume I have a love for fitness & a love for Wonderwoman -- both assumptions are correct. I am an ACSM certified personal trainer of 8+ years -- I currently reside in Ohio and live a simplistic life at the age of 29. If I am not lifting, I am eating, sleeping, traveling, exploring, or movie watching. I recently moved during a pandemic, now I am focused on self care (self love), building a business of my own in personal training, becoming a professional blogger, starting a podcast and doing things that make me happy! I am a sister, daughter, and loyal friend --- I love everyone's dog and I am on a mission to pet as many dogs as possible everywhere I go! LOL. My mission is to talk health (physical/mental), design programming, motivational speak, learn, grow, prosper, build others and make as many people smile as possible because I want nothing more than to be the change I seek in the world.

5 thoughts on “RIP To All Those Who lost their lives

  1. That last part is the key, dear. When all one side wants to do is repeal the second amendment (without actually repealing it, because that would be too hard), and all the other side does is try to protect it, you get the mess we have, but that’s not even the problem.

    There are other countries that have more guns and looser laws than we do, and a fraction of the murder.

    This is a top down problem. You have politicians with zero respect for anyone or anything but power and control. They’ll say and do anything to keep us angry and fighting. So why does it surprise you that people are angry and they fight?

    Look at the Democrat ploy, when they called for “Universal Background Checks”. Universal didn’t mean “universal”, it meant federal, not State run. If it’s federal, all the politicians have to do is tighten the rules until it’s too difficult to own a firearm for a normal citizen…. and politicians end-around the second amendment.

    There is a solution, but it will take a bigger step than looking at guns. It’ll take each person showing a little more decorum than they currently do. Top down.


    1. Jim,
      Yes, I agree 100 percent about some enjoying the power and control — which in fact, we have more of those walking around than not. I suppose when something doesn’t effect someone directly, it becomes “not their problem” –sadly or more or less just means someone can take their time doing anything at all.

      I think federal background checks was a start & we needed a start, something to move, but now, I am looking for more.. because more needs done, I think it will come down to people taking justice in their own hands — and relying less on our judicial system (as if this isn’t already happening now) but do I blame them? no. when mass shootings are becoming a “normal” thing within this country, I have a huge issue, not because I don’t expect crimes to happen, but because we have been talking about solutions since the beatles (metaphorically speaking) and the steps we have made have been little to none .. with each person elected. Maybe it’s my anxiety running rapid, but 2019 is already giving me the creeps due to what could possibly come of it, if we don’t begin to do something.
      I hate to say this, but it is safer to be dead right now than alive during times like this.. that’s the only safe zone I am aware of. That or living off grid. LOL

      Yes, I do believe it will take more than looking at guns, but we need to still keep gun control in our minds, because obviously we are lacking in that area. Like i said, who cares about banning weapons when the internet is accessible. We can’t keep people from getting what they want if they want it… because there is always a way even if it isn’t the legal system.


    2. I hope your perspective changes as you get older, that’s all I’ll say.

      Well, that and there aren’t more who want government control than not. Those who do are louder, angrier, more prone to violence. They are a small minority, maybe 15-20%. The problem is that those who continually vote for that control, most don’t know what they’re voting for because those who believe they deserve that control are only honest about it when the cameras are off and they’re in the presence of sympathetic media. They’re caught every now and again, saying things like “every little aspect of people’s lives need to be regulated”. That happened in California about six weeks ago. Most people don’t even know it was said and that the guy who did, amazingly, still has his job.

      It was tied to the banning of plastic straws.


    3. I don’t know anything about the banning of straws. My perspective stems from experience, research and the environment in which I live — and all of those things CAN change but it also stems from my own values, beliefs and moral code and some may or may not agree with it, but I don’t agree with everyone either so regardless of it changing or not, I don’t expect people to change because people will say and believe what they want & that aspect will never change unless we all become programmed robots who are enslaved and raised on thinking the same exact way. Possible, sure.
      I am a firm believer the percentage of people are higher — but not everyone comes to light & not everyone is within our country with that mindset. So many unknowns and the media can’t cover everything all the time. We only know what we see and hear of, besides that.. we know very little. So you say 15-20 percent, I say higher in the grand scheme of things —


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