365 Days of Self Discovery: Your relationships

Day 21

Think about your past romantic relationships. What lessons did you learn from them? What did each person bring to your life?

• I haven’t had many past relationships and I would say about 1-2 probably didn’t bring much to my life, if anything — and something not worth mentioning but I would say the past 2 people I dated I learned something different from each of them and yet some similar things as well because I made the same mistake in both relationships. I think of the more important things I learned in this most recent past relationship was that in order to have a stable, healthy relationship with some, both parties need to have a stable & healthy mindset, both have to be in a good place in their lives and bring forth their own happiness before relying on another to do the same & I also learned to not give so much of myself to someone all at once and so fast because it doesn’t allow things to grow; stop rushing the process of the relationship & allow things to happen naturally in their own flow. Each of my exes were different and they brought me something different at different periods of my life — I don’t think I know what those things were yet, or maybe I have an idea but it hasn’t hit me like a stone wall because I haven’t given much thought to the question in the recent years. I know for the most part, they each brought me closer to realizing my mistakes in how I handle and manage negativity in my life, they each managed to teach me to look at my own flaws and figure out to better manage them so they don’t hinder a relationship from growing or prospering. How I wish I would have been more aware back when.