365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 75

Do you find yourself apologizing a lot? Why do you think you do this?

  • Yes, I am the type of person who will apologize for everything I do, even when it is not necessary nor my fault or if I feel like I am not good enough for someone. This question brought up a good story, because actually my boss from one of my jobs had caught onto this early on and brought it to my attention. At the time he had put himself in my space (assuming he wanted to speak to me) but within in seconds, I was apologizing & this shocked and confused him, he ended up asking me why I was apologizing and I had mentioned that it was because I thought I was in his way (even though I knew I was not, because I was doing what I supposed to be doing and he was coming into my space) well, he looks at me and says “Shay, you were working and I got inside your bubble, don’t apologize for that, you need to work on your self esteem” and when he said that, it caught me off guard because I would have never considered that fact — in fact I told him I was a strong person, and he says “you may be strong physically but mentally you need work, because you shouldn’t have to apologize for every little thing, especially when the apology isn’t rendered necessary and you did nothing wrong; that usually is a self esteem issue, or self worth issue” — well maybe he was right, and with this motivational conversation and wisdom, I try to now make it a reminder to not apologize so much because sometimes I don’t even know why I am apologizing in the first place. 
Do any of you find yourself in the same situation where you are the type to apologize for everything, it just comes as second nature to you? Also, do you agree with my boss, that normally when someone makes this a habit, it is a self esteem/self worth rooted issue? Share your thoughts in the comments, and if you can, share it with your readers so we can really crack this nut open. Thanks for reading!
 
Shay-lon

Published by WonderWoman & Fit

You can assume I have a love for fitness & a love for Wonderwoman -- both assumptions are correct. I am an ACSM certified personal trainer of 7+ years -- I currently reside in Ohio and live a simplistic life at the age of 29. If I am not lifting, I am eating, sleeping, traveling, exploring, or movie watching. I recently moved during a pandemic, now I am focused on self care (self love), building a business of my own in personal training, becoming a professional blogger, starting a podcast and doing things that make me happy! I am a sister, daughter, and loyal friend --- I love everyone's dog and I am on a mission to pet as many dogs as possible everywhere I go! LOL. My mission is to talk health (physical/mental), design programming, motivational speak, learn, grow, prosper, build others and make as many people smile as possible because I want nothing more than to be the change I seek in the world.

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