I plan on getting back to the podcast soon that I created (been away from it for 3 months) and so to keep things fresh, I will probably do the Tips Tuesday — and gradually get back into things, don’t want to overwhelm myself with too much because of all the extra stuff I am now taking on. With this being said, I created this tip months ago, and I figured it is very important — something we should all aim for & that is:
Building a positive social circle.
What this means, is choosing to surround yourself with people who help to build you, motivate you, encourage you, and support you. We all have had people in our circle at one point who seemed like the debbie downer or the one that constantly complains about life and all the downs but never sees any positive things from it — but maybe some of us have been the negative one in our own circle (if this is true, change your outlook .. in order to gain the positive circle you seek). This is excluding those of us with mental illnesses that might play a part in our mindset, but even so with that illness, finding people who appreciate you and give you hope and have a concern for you and your life as much as you have for them is a start in the right direction.
I am not perfect by any means, but since growing up and becoming more mature and making better adult decisions, I have gotten better at being alone until I meet people who have a good impact in my life instead of being friends and accepting everyone in my circle — I had to learn to be more picky because I get discouraged easy and I deal with my own demons and having a negative person who constantly brings me down, only creates more issues in the long term for me. Something we have to learn to do, is be picky as to who we allow in our lives and who we allow to impact our lives. Down below I list some ways to build a positive social circle:
- Be PICKY! Don’t allow anyone in, make sound decisions. Not everyone needs to be your friend
- Change your outlook/attitude about yourself – when you have a more positive outlook on yourself, people tend to gravitate towards you and in turn you make more relationships that are good relationships
- Respect people- Respect goes a long way in life, if you can respect others, normally it means they will have mutual respect for you
- Be open minded: Open minded individuals tend to see within a person vs the outer layer, they want a deeper connection with someone and in turn you truly start to build a stronger bond
- Compliment someone: Giving someone a reason to smile can make a difference — people will feel appreciated & it can make your day knowing you made someone else’s day. People enjoy compliments, truths about themselves that maybe they don’t see within them, but hearing it from someone else gives them a reason to continue being awesome! A simple compliment can carry a lot of weight
- Don’t be self absorbed: I always say there is nothing wrong with taking care of yourself BUT you don’t want your circle to get tired of learning about you, when you become self absorbed everything revolves around you and that shows others that you don’t have their best interest in mind. I will just add that, being self absorbed can lead to bad relationships because everybody wants a chance to shine and when you take someone’s limelight to shine back on yourself, it comes off as arrogant.
- Confidence is needed: Confidence is a necessity because people feed off someone who is confident with who they are, you need to carry yourself like you are proud of being alive, proud of who you are and proud of where you came from because it is what makes you, you! You might have a bad past but it doesn’t mean you are bad person, and you might have flaws but flaws don’t make you less of a person.
- Think before you speak: We get in a habit with saying whatever is on our minds, which isn’t always bad, but it can lead to bad outcomes if we don’t think about how to go about things. If you keep other people’s feelings in mind, then you will have better outcomes, telling the truth isn’t bad but its how you say it that can make the whole difference. Take others into consideration before speaking too much of your mind.
- Don’t be “two faced”: We all know what it means to be two faced “someone who smiles in your face but will talk behind your back when you leave” , yes, that’s very dishonest, rude and immature. Grow up, if you want people in your circle who are positive, don’t make it hard on yourself by giving them a reason to not trust you or like you.
- Find people with similar hobbies: It can pay off when you acquaint yourself with those who share the same interest and hobbies as you, this makes life a little easier but don’t disregard those who are opposite because many times they can give us new experiences and allow us to step outside our comfort level.
- Be true to SELF: Be real, be authentic, and be yourself. Changing for others will either end badly or last for a short period of time because you will run into all walks of life and having to shift who you are for each person will get tiring — change is good if it makes you into a better person and develops you mentally and physically and spiritually but when it becomes a change in order to “fit in” with people or groups of people, it drains you, overwhelms you, and reduces your chances of making deeper connections with people. Not everyone will like you, but those who do like you, will be worth it because they will see the best in you —
Building a circle isn’t about being “popular” and most liked, it is about building a meaningful bond with people who take the time to build that same bond with you. Building a positive circle isn’t about having to smile and be happy everyday, it’s about building a circle that allows for bad days but doesn’t dwell on them — Shay-lon Moss
A circle can be small (2-3 close friends) or a bigger circle (5-10 friends), or your family members — it doesn’t matter how big or small it is, it’s a circle that has your back no matter how deep the water gets; they motivate, support, and uplift you– they give you truths but don’t slam you with bad vibes — Shay-lon Moss
Have something you want to add to this list, feel free to leave in the comment section!
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Great tips. It is true , the company we kerp impacts us greatly.
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Hi Shay-lon, agree, surroundihng yourself with positive people can help you stay positive and help you move forward. Negative people can hold you back on whatever you want to accomplish in life.
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Yes, very true! sometimes it is hard to let go of people but when you do , things can be refreshing once you leave the negative ones behind.
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So true. The people you surround yourself with have an effect on your days and life. Great post!
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Thank you Lacey appreciate it 😀
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Sensational advice! Thank you
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Thank you 🙂 And you’re welcome
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Always say “yes” to the present moment. What could be more futile, more insane, than to create inner resistance to what already is? what could be more insane than to oppose life itself, which is now and always now? Surrender to what is. Say “yes” to life — and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.
Eckhart Tolle
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It’s so important to surround yourself with positivity because it because it truly is contagious! Really liked the tips you gave especially not being two faced because that pisses me off so much when people do that.
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Yes, me too. I think this was a post that most people can relate to, because as humans we tend to sometimes forget that our circle that we are surrounded by can be a reason for our own progress or be the reason behind our delayed progress. I think having good relationships can build on your character. At times we hinder ourselves and make the circle bad because of own personality or negativity, so it is also about changing our own outlook and attitudes 😀
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Yeah your own attitude definitely effects the type of social circle you have and the type of people you attract in your own life and making ourselves more positive definitely helps in finding more positive people!
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Reblogged this on lifesfinewhine and commented:
Always surround yourself with positivity!
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Reblogged this on msvickylove.com and commented:
Great post! It is very important to build a positive social circle. Awesome tips, thank you. I’ve re-blogged.
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Thank you for reblogging, I am thankful that you enjoyed the post. I believe that everyone should be able to equate to this information in some form or fashion. It is truly amazing when you find people who come into your life and light a special meaningful path in your heart 😀
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It’s my pleasure. Great info must be shared. Thank you again Love. Keep shining!
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